--- title: The Art of Showing Up | daily.dev description: Consistently showing up for people, personally and professionally, builds the relationships that create career opportunities, Deb Liu argues. She cites a 2009... canonical: https://daily.dev/posts/the-art-of-showing-up-gbleiccgk twitter:card: summary_large_image twitter:site: @dailydotdev og:type: website og:site_name: daily.dev og:title: The Art of Showing Up | daily.dev og:description: Consistently showing up for people, personally and professionally, builds the relationships that create career opportunities, Deb Liu argues. She cites a 2009... og:url: https://daily.dev/posts/the-art-of-showing-up-gbleiccgk og:image: https://api.daily.dev/og/posts/gBlEIccgK.png og:image:alt: The Art of Showing Up og:image:width: 1200 og:image:height: 630 og:locale: en --- > ## Documentation Index > Fetch the complete documentation index at: https://daily.dev/llms.txt > Use this file to discover all available pages before exploring further. # The Art of Showing Up **[Tech Lead Digest](https://daily.dev/sources/techleaddigest)** · 8 min read · 23 upvotes · 1 comments ## Summary Consistently showing up for people, personally and professionally, builds the relationships that create career opportunities, Deb Liu argues. She cites a 2009 study finding divorce after a cancer or MS diagnosis was 2.9% when the husband got sick and 20.8% when the wife did, and surveys where 65% and more than 75% of friends or family withdrew after a cancer diagnosis. She contrasts this with her friend Arianna Huffington, who never misses a call, and her husband's years judging speech and debate tournaments. Her advice: make the first move, decline clearly if you can't attend, make space for others, go even when reluctant, and engage fully. ## Full article daily.dev links to this article rather than hosting it. Read it at the original source: ## Questions this post answers ### How much more likely are couples to divorce after a cancer diagnosis, and does it differ by gender? A 2009 study found the overall divorce rate after a cancer or multiple sclerosis diagnosis was 11.6% in heterosexual couples. The rate was much higher when the wife was the patient: 20.8%, compared to just 2.9% when the husband was sick, roughly a 7x difference. _Anyone researching how illness affects relationships can find grounded perspectives like this one on daily.dev._ ### What percentage of friends or family disappear after someone is diagnosed with cancer? Survey data shows a large share withdraw: a War on Cancer survey found 65% of respondents said friends or relatives had disappeared or cut off contact after diagnosis, while a Breastcancer.org poll found more than 75% had friends or family withdraw, and a Maggie's survey found 42% admitted visiting upset them too much. _Readers processing a diagnosis or supporting someone through one can find similar first-person reflections on daily.dev._ ## Community discussion Top comments from developers on daily.dev. **@anderspersson** · 5 upvotes > Sometimes a post comes along that makes the world lite better this is one of them, thanks for posting. ## Similar posts on daily.dev - [When You Feel Stuck in the Mud, Just Take One Step](https://daily.dev/posts/when-you-feel-stuck-in-the-mud-just-take-one-step-pblmrmvdm) · Atomic Spin · 1 upvotes · 0 comments - [How My Cisco Community Helped Me Through Cancer — and Back to Life](https://daily.dev/posts/how-my-cisco-community-helped-me-through-cancer-and-back-to-life-1z7qycmxi) · Cisco · 0 upvotes · 0 comments - [Things to know if you get cancer in 2026](https://daily.dev/posts/things-to-know-if-you-get-cancer-in-2026-ysjnzvz06) · Hacker News · 1 upvotes · 0 comments --- Tags: [#career](https://daily.dev/tags/career), [#networking](https://daily.dev/tags/networking) [View this post on daily.dev](https://daily.dev/posts/the-art-of-showing-up-gbleiccgk) ```json {"@context":"https://schema.org","@graph":[{"@type":"Organization","@id":"https://daily.dev/#organization","name":"daily.dev","url":"https://daily.dev","logo":{"@type":"ImageObject","url":"https://daily.dev/apple-touch-icon.png","width":180,"height":180},"sameAs":["https://twitter.com/dailydotdev","https://github.com/dailydotdev","https://www.linkedin.com/company/daily-dev-ltd"]},{"@type":"WebSite","@id":"https://daily.dev/#website","url":"https://daily.dev","name":"daily.dev","publisher":{"@id":"https://daily.dev/#organization"},"potentialAction":{"@type":"SearchAction","target":{"@type":"EntryPoint","urlTemplate":"https://daily.dev/search?q={search_term_string}"},"query-input":"required name=search_term_string"}}]} {"@context":"https://schema.org","@type":"TechArticle","headline":"The Art of Showing Up","url":"https://daily.dev/posts/the-art-of-showing-up-gbleiccgk","mainEntityOfPage":{"@type":"WebPage","@id":"https://daily.dev/posts/the-art-of-showing-up-gbleiccgk"},"datePublished":"2026-11-09T03:59:15.951Z","dateModified":"2026-11-09T04:09:41.394Z","description":"Consistently showing up for people, personally and professionally, builds the relationships that create career opportunities, Deb Liu argues. 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